Valentine's Day
and Sadness
By Alison Day
“Roses are red, violets are blue, follow your
dreams and they will come true” – Nathaniel Howard, grade
5
“Roses are red, violets are blue, you may not
know this, but I fancy you.” - Zoe Coxon grade 4
Valentine’s Day is here again and some of you will receive cards
with little love messages and rhymes from your lover or new admirer, perhaps
a bouquet of roses or be spoilt to an evening of romance. For you Valentine’s
Day will be romantic and exciting, a day to feel special and loved by
your partner.
However, for many it is a day that accentuates loneliness. As you see
and hear others shriek with delight at their gifts and promises of new
love, your solitude seems so much more unbearable than it did just the
day before.
So for those of you who have love and romance this Valentine’s,
I hope you have a fabulous day!! For those of you who are on your own,
or in a relationship that doesn't give you much reason to celebrate
on Valentine’s Day, I have a gift for you.
As a firm believer in positive thought and affirmation, I have a few
affirmations that are associated with a couple of the Major Arcana cards,
and I would like to share these with you, as they have helped me during
the times I have felt lonely or unloved.
The Hanged Man
Letting go of someone I love deeply is a challenge I can barely
face. However, the realization that I cannot make someone love me helps
me understand that hanging on, or staying with someone who doesn't
love me only grieves me more.
I will no longer crave to reconcile a relationship with someone
who does not wish to be with me - I will no longer tolerate a relationship
where I am not loved or respected by my partner – I will never
chase someone who isn't interested in my advances.
I let go of any thoughts that I cannot find love
I let go of any thoughts that I am unlovable
I let go of the fear of loneliness
The Lovers
I accept total responsibility for the choices in love that I make.
I can choose to believe I am lovable and will find a fulfilling
and loving relationship.
I can choose to let go of someone who does not give me love or
joy.
I can choose to have self-love
I can choose who I give my love to, I can also choose to say no
Whether you are missing an ex-lover, going through divorce or separation,
or experiencing loneliness because you haven’t been in a romantic
relationship for some time - don’t let the 24 hours of Valentine’s
Day get you down.
It is a day like any other day, look beyond it and turn thoughts of dismay
and feelings of loneliness into hope and optimism.
Every minute is a new opportunity to change everything – love so
often turns up when you least expect it.
Love and joy, Alison
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